The Irony of Intimacy

The best thing about marriage is also the worst thing about marriage!

Most people agree that the best thing about marriage is intimacy. Marriage brings people together in a physical and emotional bond that transcends anything other type of relationship. It's a wonderful thing when you get to share the deepest parts of yourself with another person.

But intimacy can also be scary. Robert Louis Stevenson said, "By marrying, you have wilfully introduced a witness into your life." Well, he knew what he was talking about! When two people commit themselves to a marriage relationship, it doesn't take long to realise how exhausting it can be. Suddenly our flaws and inconsistencies are exposed, and there's no place to hide!

True intimacy may feel uncomfortable, but it's what a marriage needs to grow strong. When two people allow that kind of accountability into their lives, the bond they share can become deeper than they ever dreamed possible.

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