Giving Kids Independence

Sometimes the best thing we can do for our kids is to let them do for themselves.

When kids are very young we parent by controlling what they do. We tell them what to eat, where to go, and what they can and can’t get into. It’s our job to keep them safe and teach them right from wrong. But as kids get older, they start to assert more control over their lives—and that’s a good thing.

But many parents are so used to making decisions for their kids that they try to hang on to that control—sometimes for much longer than they should.

As kids reach the teen years, it’s important to let them think and do for themselves. They still need parenting, but on a different level. Instead of controlling what they do, our job is to guide and mentor them toward good decisions. If we’ve raised them right, this transition should come about naturally.

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