“Help me understand”

These three words can make all the difference when you feel your emotions getting the best of you during a disagreement with your spouse. According to Mike Bechtle, “Disagreements start with a difference in perspective. Your spouse has their own way of seeing things . . . ‘Help me understand’ is a phrase that de-escalates tough conversations and opens the door to genuine, trusting connection.”

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