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100+ Heart to heart questions
By Focus on the Family Canada
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Asking questions is one way to keep exploring the many dimensions of your multi-faceted spouse and to keep your lines of communication open:

What was the best Christmas you’ve ever had?
Is there anything I do that really bothers you? That you'd like to see change?
What do I need to know about how you express different emotions (e.g., sadness, anger)?
What do I need to understand about your attachment style?
What’s one thing you would include in your dream house?
How can I better speak your love language?
In what ways can we be more on the same team?
What makes you feel the most alive?
How can I help you when you're feeling overwhelmed?
What was your favourite hobby as a child?
When do you feel closest with God?
How can I help you feel more comfortable when we talk?
What boundaries can we set with others to protect our marriage?
Do you need time alone or time with others to feel energised?
In what ways can I better support you in our marriage?
What boundaries do we need to set with our extended families?
What can we do to protect our marriage from digital infidelity?
What can we do to intentionally seek oneness in our marriage?
What can we do to be better stewards of our finances?
What area of our marriage are we neglecting?
Where can we find romance in our daily lives?
What are three things I’ve done to make you feel cherished and honoured?
What boundaries do we need to set with our parents to put our marriage first?
How can we strengthen our marriage before crisis hits?
How can we show more kindness to each other and to those around us?
How can we manage our money better as a couple?
How can we help those in our community who are grieving?
What can we do to serve each other more like Christ?
What was the most useful premarital discussion we had?
What do you appreciate about our marriage?
What does our marriage look like from the outside in?
How can we make God the centre of our marriage?
What would you like to accomplish as a couple this year?
What can I do to improve our relationship with your family?
What are some ways my personality can be pushed to an extreme?
What are some ways our marriage has helped you grow spiritually?
What are some ways we can prioritise our marriage?
What are you grateful for in our marriage?
What was one expectation you had about our marriage?
Which of your strengths do you most value?
What's a clear answer to prayer you've experienced?
What's your most memorable moment of our wedding day?
What is your favourite way of spending time with me?
What's something you miss about your childhood?
Whose marriage do you admire, and what can we learn from it?
What moment in history would you like to have been a part of?
What's one thing that made you laugh today?
What’s one thing I did this week that impressed you?
What is the most valuable thing we own?
Which friend has most influenced you and how?
What's the silliest fight we've ever had?
How can I show love/respect to you when we're in public?
What do you most appreciate about our church?
How can I help you accomplish your New Year resolution?
What is your favourite way to worship God?
What has been the most difficult struggle in your life so far?
What goals would you like us to achieve before the end of the year?
What area of our marriage are you most proud of? What’s an area you’d like to see us improve upon?
What is your favourite summertime memory from your childhood?
What was your favourite chore as a child? What was your least favourite?
What is something you have always wanted to try?
As your spouse, how can I better nurture our relationship?
What does "quality time" mean to you?
What are three occupations that you could never do? Why?
What is your biggest goal for the new year? In what ways can I help you achieve this?
What is your favourite part of the Christmas story? Why?
What is the most generous thing anyone has ever done for you?
Who was your role model growing up? Why did you look to them as an example?
How would you like to see us grow in our marriage by the end of the year?
If you knew you could not fail, what would you do?
Are you ever frightened about the future? If so, what frightens you?
What are you most looking forward to about this year?
If you were to open a restaurant, what kind of food would you serve?
What would you say is your greatest achievement? Why?
When did you know that I was the one you were meant to marry?
If you could make a living using a favourite hobby, which hobby would you choose?
With what celebrity could you see yourself having a lot in common?
What is your favourite memory of your grandparents?
When you were a child, what did you dream of becoming one day?
If you could go anywhere in the world right now, where would it be?
How have you changed through our marriage?
Describe your current relationship with God.
What’s your most favourite date activity?
What do you most vividly remember about our first date?
What aspect of our marriage would you like to work on this year?
What is your fondest childhood Christmas memory?
What do you like most about fall?
What are the top five things you are most thankful for in your life?
Which literary character is a lot like you?
How do you see things differently since becoming married?
If you could travel anywhere in the world, where would you go?
What is the most embarrassing thing you ever did on your first job?
What's the funniest thing you ever did as a kid?
What are your retirement dreams?
What do you like most about our marriage and why?
What have you been learning about God lately?
What do you hope for our marriage this year?
What are your expectations for this Christmas?
Which holidays of the year are important to you and why?
What are you most thankful for about our marriage?
What do you admire most about each of your parents?
What things in life bring you the most joy?
What are some of your best memories of our married life so far?
What hopes do you have for our marriage and family?
Tell me about the first time you saw God's hand at work in your life.
What do you think are the strengths/weaknesses of our marriage?
(Ask each other:) What spiritual gifts do you see in me?
What kinds of hobbies do you wish we could do together?
What are some practical ways I can make you feel loved?