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For Couples - Marriage Killers


It isn't the major tragedies that tear so many marriages apart, it's sometimes the unhealthy choices that couples make on a daily basis.  When marriages fail, many couples point to some major issue.  But a relationship that's strong should be able to weather any storm.  The truth is, it's the little things that kill a marriage.

A wife may decide to hide her shopping receipts, so that her husband won't know how much she spends on clothes. She may talk about him behind his back or confess things to her mother about their marriage, knowing how much that bothers him. A husband may work long hours, even though he knows how much his wife resents it. He may sneak out for a round of golf without telling her.

It's these small, daily choices of dishonesty that tear away at the foundation of a marriage. And the only way to rebuild it is through a conscious decision to change. That means doing whatever it takes to rebuild the trust you've lost.

Find more practical relationship advice go to the Strengthening marriage tab on left hand side.


For Parents of Teens - I Hate it When That Happens


 Hate is a strong word — especially when our kids use it against us. As difficult as it is to hear mean words from our teen, remember this important principle — if our children always like us, it’s likely that we may be failing in our job as parents.

Too many parents today are so concerned with being their children’s best friend that they don’t set appropriate limits on their behaviour. This is known as “pushover parenting,” and it sets up children for failure and frustration because they are not used to having any limits or boundaries.

No matter the circumstances though, it’s unacceptable for your teen to say they hate you. When they’re frustrated or angry, allow them to verbalize their anger in a respectful way. It’s okay to say, “I’m angry with you,” but never accept “I hate you.” Let them know there will be consequences associated with that behaviour.

For more family advice and encouragement, explore the Equipping parents tab on the left hand side.


For Parents - Teaching Kids Creatively


  Sometimes the best approach to solving a problem is to think outside the box. And what better skill to teach our kids?

There's a difference between being artistic and being creative. Creativity is about solving problems by looking at things from a different perspective. It's a matter of learning to consider multiple solutions, and thinking through a number of possible outcomes.

Instead of simply saying something won't work, a creative person will usually try to figure out a way to make it work. And creativity isn't something you have to be born with-it's a skill, just like math or reading. And it's something every child can learn.

When your kids are ready to give up on a project, teach them to look at it from a different angle. Say to them, "What would happen if we tried it this way?" And if that doesn't work, help them try something else. The key is to think outside the box-and to teach your kids to do the same.

For more great ways to raise responsible kids explore the Equipping parents tab on the left hand side.


For Everyone - The True Measure of Success


Ever notice how people who know the most are the first to acknowledge just how little they know? You can always tell a truly successful person by their humility and genuine nature.

They don’t feel the need to tell you how good they are; they’re just good at what they do. And they look for ways to build others up. They understand that true success is a group effort, and it happens best when everyone succeeds together. They’re also quick to give credit to others when something works.

And if it fails, they’re not afraid to take the blame. Instead of always worrying about making the right decision, successful people make a decision and then work to make it right. They understand that any plan is better than no plan. No matter what the task, if you don’t take the first step, you’ll never succeed. That’s why successful people are always moving forward.

For Couples - draw him out For Couples - draw him out

For Couples - draw him out


All marriages hit a rut every now and then; the key to getting through it is to talk it out. Wives are usually the first to recognize when their marriage has hit a dry patch, but many are unsure how to raise the subject with their husband.
Many men don’t respond well to sit-down, face-to-face “let’s talk about our issues” kind of discussions, so a different approach is usually called for.

You might suggest the two of you engage in some kind of joint activity that he enjoys, like an afternoon at the beach or taking a bush walk. Then, when you’re involved in the activity, ask him if he would mind if you talked about something that’s been on your mind.

Without interrogating him, tell him you’d really like to know how he’s been feeling about life lately, and how he views your marriage relationship. Once you get him talking, you should get a good idea of what’s going on in his head. From there, it’s critical you express that you want to work together to get things back on track.

Find more practical relationship advice go to the Strengthening marriage tab on left hand side.


For Parents of Teenagers - safe and clued in


 Teenagers and parents often share the same problem when it comes to communication. So, what’s the most common complaint that parents and teenagers have regarding each other? “They don’t listen to me!”
Communication has stalled, but it’s up to mum and dad to open their ears first.

To have a successful discussion with your kids, you need to first earn their trust, and that involves developing good listening skills. Affirm their feelings first, even if those emotions seem illogical to you. And, be the calm one in the midst of their emotional storms and try not to take hurtful things to heart.

And here’s a biggie: err on the side of believing them, even if you don’t agree with them. With all the challenges and temptations our kids face these days, it’s important they know that we are safe and caring listeners who can be trusted to handle what they tell us.

For more family advice and encouragement, explore the Equipping parents tab on the left hand side.


For Parents of Preschoolers - Responsible toddlers


  How do you get your children to help around the house? Well, you begin by teaching them when they’re still toddlers.

It’s usually easier to just do chores by yourself than to teach your three-year-old how to help. But when they’re young is the time to start sowing seeds of responsibility. It’s a lot of work, but it’s worth the effort.

Start by giving your toddler age-appropriate chores, like feeding the dog or cat. Give them a cup for measuring food and water, so they don’t overdo it. And when you bathe your pet, let them help.
They can also set the table. When they’re really young, just use plastic plates and cups. It makes cleaning up easier anyway. When you’re done, teach them how to clear the table and wipe it down. Before long they’ll be old pros in the kitchen, just like you.

For more great ways to raise responsible kids explore the Equipping parents tab on the left hand side.


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